The Perils of Selling Your Own Home

Maurer-ctaIt can be pretty scary to sell your own home… and it can take a long time! I wanted to share with you the legitimate concerns you should have if you are considering selling your home by yourself.

If after reading this article you have any questions, please feel free to call me at 519-885-0200 or email me here.


The Perils of Sell-It-Yourself

By Douglas A. Gray, LLB

6810840_mlDouglas A. Gray who is a lawyer, consultant, financial columnist, and author of 25 best-selling business and personal finance books wrote this article several years ago and it’s even more relevant in today’s market. This guy knows his stuff!
When the time comes to sell your home, you may be tempted to sell it yourself. There is primarily only one reason for doing so, and that is saving on a real estate commission.  The only other motivation could be a personal challenge or learning experience, but basically the desire to save money is the main motivator.  On the other hand, the savings could be a very expensive illusion.

Based on my personal and professional experience and observation, there are some general disadvantages of selling a home yourself, as opposed to using a carefully selected Realtor.

The following remarks are not intended to dissuade you from attempting to sell your own home, but to place the process in realistic perspective. 


If you don’t know all the steps involved, from the pre-sale procedures and strategies to completing the deal and receiving the money, you could and probably would make mistakes that could be costly to you.

Many people, especially with their own home, tend to get emotionally involved in the sale process because of the direct interaction with the prospective purchasers.  For example, frustration can be experienced due to rejection of the house, negative comments or fault-finding, people whose personality you don’t like, or people who negotiate toughly on the price.

Time commitment

You have to have open houses as well as show your property at times that may not necessarily be convenient to you. In addition, you are going to be spending time preparing the ad copy and staying at home to respond to telephone calls or people knocking on your door.


Costs include all of the daily or weekly newspaper classified and/or box ads, as well as a lawn sign or on-line do-it-yourself companies. You would pay for these yourself and they can be alarmingly expensive.

Limited Exposure

There are considerable differences in market exposure in terms of advertising and promotion a Realtor could do for you. There is obviously a direct correlation between the nature and degree of market exposure and the end price. Clearly, limited market exposure means limited prospective buyers.

Legal problems

The prospective purchaser may supply you with his own agreement of purchase and sale. This contract may have clauses and other terms in it that could be legally risky, unenforceable, unfair or otherwise not beneficial to you. You may not recognize these potential problems or risks.

In addition, you could end up agreeing to take back a mortgage (vendor-take-back mortgage) when it would not be necessary or wise, or to accept a long-term option or other legal arrangement that could be risky to you.

Lack of familiarity

You may not have a clear or objective idea of exactly what similar properties in your market are selling for, or the state of the real estate market at that point in time. This can place you at a distinct disadvantage. For example, if you are being unrealistic in your pricing, along with limited advertising exposure, you could literally price yourself right out of the market. Prospective purchasers may not even look, let alone make an offer. You may eventually sell your property, but only after several price reductions and after a long period of time. Naturally, of course, this depends on the market and the nature of your property.

No pre-screening

You would not generally know the art of pre-screening prospects in terms of questions to ask them over the phone. The end result is that you could waste your time talking to people over the phone or showing them through the house, who are not and never will be serious prospects.

Offer price

You may think the offer is the best offer from that prospective purchaser, or any purchaser, and therefore may accept it. That price may not be the best price at all. You may have started too low or too high for your initial asking price, based on emotion or needs, not reality; you may have received a “lowball” offer from a prospective purchaser that was never intended to be accepted but was designed to reduce your expectations; you may be inexperienced in applying real estate negotiating skills; or you may be subjected to effective closing skills on the part of the prospective purchaser.

Lack of skill

This problem was referred to in the previous point. You may lack serious negotiating or sales skills and feel very uncomfortable or anxious in attempting to negotiate a contract.


It is not uncommon for the prospective purchaser to determine what the fair market value is and then ask to have an additional discount equal to the real estate commission you are trying to save. The primary reason why prospective purchasers are attracted to a “For Sale By Owner” is the prospect of getting a better deal than a property listed with a Realtor, due to the commission otherwise built into the sale price.

The primary reason why you are selling the property yourself is to save the full amount of any commission otherwise payable. Hence the problem. A compromise may be possible whereby the price is further reduced by a percentage of the commission saved. Again, in practical terms, it is normally an illusion to think you will save the full or even a substantial amount of the commission. Would you not have a lingering doubt that you could have netted more if it was listed with a Realtor?

Buyer’s market

Buyers in this type of market are very price sensitive, negotiate toughly because they want the best deal, and have the time to be selective after comparing what is available in the market.

You are at a disadvantage if you don’t receive all the exposure possible and use all the negotiating and selling skills available.

Maurer-ctaAs you can see, there are many distinct advantages to utilizing the services and skills of a professionally trained and experienced Realtor, whether for buying or selling real estate.

Douglas A. Gray, LLB, is a Vancouver-based recently retired real estate lawyer and one of Canada’s foremost authorities on real estate education.  He is a renowned speaker, nationally Syndicated real estate columnist and author of 12 best-selling books. This article was originally published on Douglas A. Gray’s website here.